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This might be review for those of you that have read Jeremy’s post on 3Story, but we need to know our story and God’s story if we are going to initiate spiritual conversations with others. Without knowing what God’s story is, it is just finding good friends. We want to have spiritual conversations.

We shared a few hours ago tools that Cru has to start spiritual conversations, but these are not the only ones available.Another way we can start spiritual conversations in our everyday life without using any tools is through connecting points. This can be done with people we have known for years, as well as people we are meeting for the first time. We use this term in Cru and you heard Jeremy use it as he talked about 3Story as well. It is fundamental to sharing our life and faith with those around us.

While a good starting point is to know our testimony, we can take this further. We all have connecting points in our lives to the Gospel. For instance, when someone asks what my job is, I tell them that I work for Cru. Depending on the setting, this can allow me to tell them why I work for Cru, and a little about what God has done in my life. We also have times in our life, though, when we have experienced loneliness, regret, the death of a friend, or something similar, in which we have really seen God show up in a significant way in our life. These areas of our life are also good connecting points to the gospel, as we initiate spiritual conversations with those around us. It is also important that we remember that we’re having a discussion. As Jeremy has already talked about, we need to know their story. This is true when we are interacting with those we already know, and it is equally true when we engage in a spiritual conversation with someone we are meeting with for the first time. As we hear their story, we can find connecting points between what they have experienced in their life, and what we have experienced in ours.

So what are some ways we can initiate with those around us?

Classic 3Story Evangelism
This happens best with people you are already naturally forming relationships with. I don’t need to go into much depth here, because Jeremy already did a great series about 3Story. As we interact with friends and others that we are already forming relationships with, we live a lifestyle that allows us to tie our story and their story to God’s story. We take the initiative to bring God into the equation and interact with them by sharing more deeply about us, learning more deeply about their life, and talking about deeper spiritual matters with them.

Starting Conversations with Strangers
If you think about it, this isn’t that uncommon. In our daily life most of us probably talk to people we don’t know. Sure, they are usually short conversations, like a brief conversation on the metro about the weather, or talking to someone in line at the post office about who they are sending their package to. Even when we talk to strangers, or people we won’t see ever again, we can move them towards the gospel by setting a good example in how we interact with them. When there are good connecting points, we can share a little more about how our story connects, and even their story connects to God’s story.

Leaving a Tract with Someone
I might know what you’re thinking here. Whenever I hear about someone leaving a tract with someone else, I think “what a cop out.” I think evangelism should be more hands on and relational. However, Bill Bright, the co-founder of Cru often did something similar to this with his Four Spiritual Laws and he had amazing stories about how God worked through him doing so. However, even when he did this he would have a relational aspect to it. An example of this is that after getting to know his seatmate on a plane he would say, “The things this booklet talks about changed my life. If you are interested, I’d love to talk to you about it. Would you like a copy to read yourself?” Then, if the individual chose to read it and they wanted to talk further, they could. If not, no problem. While I don’t think this is the most ideal situation, there may be times in our life when we can’t stay and talk to someone about the gospel, even though the Holy Spirit might be placing a strong burden on our heart to share with them. In that case, it might be a good idea to give them a tract like The Four Spiritual Laws or the newer Would You Like to Know God Personally booklet. With an introductory statement and a way to contact us, this could still be relational. (Or better yet, if possible we can find a way to contact them later on if we can do so without coming across as a creeper.) It can still give us a chance to eventually share more of our story, learn more about their story, and connect both of our stories with each other and God’s story. Even if we can’t connect with them later, it is possible that we helped move them closer to the gospel.

The way we initiate spiritual conversations is different in different settings. If we are approaching someone we have known for years, we would initiate a spiritual conversation differently than we would with someone we are talking to for the first time. While the truth of the gospel is always the same, the starting point, depth of the conversation, metaphors used, and so on can all vary. It helps to have a clear understanding of the gospel or, as we have already talked about, it helps to know God’s story, and be able to clearly communicate it. Within Cru, we use a booklet I’ve already mentioned that is called Would You like to Know God Personally. (This is a new version of the Four Spiritual Laws.) When we use this booklet to share, we already have a clear understanding of the Gospel, so we don’t ramble incoherently (which some of the shyer among us might otherwise do). It can sometimes be helpful to use tracts as we share God’s story with others, and less mature Christians might even find themselves needing to as they learn to clearly communicate the message of Jesus. When we can memorize the essence of the Gospel as it is presented in tools like Would You like to Know God Personally, then we can truly be prepared to give a clear concise answer for the hope that we have. Different methods may work better for different people, but we all have the common call to be prepared to give an answer for the hope that comes from Jesus.

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I remember when I was a student with Youth for Christ, when I first heard of 3Story Evangelism. I remember thinking how complicated witnessing seemed, what a beautiful thing it was the 3Story encapsulated the basics of what I needed to do to start sharing my faith in Christ, and the difference he has made in my life with those around me. Two weeks ago, Jeremy and Gwen have done an awesome job of explaining 3Story and how we can talk to our friends, family and co-workers about our faith in Christ by knowing Our Story, listening to Their Story, and dialoguing with them about God’s Story.

In high school as I became more and more familiar with 3Story (which is a method of what is called relational evangelism), it became something I grew more comfortable doing. It is exciting to think about the impact that students can have for Christ merely by sharing their whole life, including their relationship with Christ with people they already know. Then I went to college. Early on, I became involved in Campus Crusade for Christ (soon to be renamed Cru). One thing that Cru does well is initiative evangelism, which is where students and staff start conversations with other students that they don’t know. Now, I know what many of you might be thinking and I was thinking the same thing. When I thought of initiative evangelism, I thought of someone going door to door, his KJV at the ready, asking if you would like to know Jesus. This is something that I felt I would never be able to do, and every fiber of my being wanted to fight against the very idea of talking to people I didn’t know.

Eventually this changed. After a little while I learned more about what Cru means when they talk about initiative evangelism. In fact, as I learned more, I eventually made up a new term, initiative relational evangelism. The truth is that we are called to reach out to those around us, both those that we know and those that we don’t know, with the message of Christ. In every case, forming a sincere relationship is important, whether we have just met someone for the first time, or if we have known them for years. Over the next few days I am going to write more about initiative relational evangelism, but first I would like to hear your thoughts. How can we be relational when we are starting conversations with people we don’t know? Can you think of any ways that what we have learned about 3Story as a form of relational evangelism can inform what we do when we are engaging in initiative relational evangelism?

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[VLog] 3Story Wrap Up

Jeremy Smith —  October 7, 2011 — 5 Comments

Gwen Smith joins us as we talk about the whole 3Story process and somethings that were not covered in the blog articles.

Please ignore the skipping. That is not editing, but a failing hard drive on my laptop.

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The final piece of the 3Story process is the story of God. Before we get into how this interacts with the other two pieces, there is one aspect to address with this. God’s story is in the Bible, yet that is not the whole thing. He is still alive and present in the Church. We need to use His Word to His people, store it in our hearts, and share it with all that will listen. At the same time, we need to understand that this is not good enough. We need to deepen our relationship with Him as we have an active and inviting relationship with Him through prayer, silence, and the miracles that are happening all around us. May we never forget that He is here, we just need to look, listen, and wait for Him.

As stated above, we need to know God’s story and keep our relationship with Him. Our story impacted with God’s when we entered into a relationship with Him and stated that He is our Lord and King. As we go through this life, we can learn through life’s struggles to hold close and trust in His power and in the joys and miracles of life we can praise Him and hold to the memories of His love and kindness.

To intersect our story and God’s story with theirs, we much ensure that we have the right to be heard instead of just shouting fire and brimstone. The Skit Guys did this amazing skit where they were showing how to not evangelize to others. One of the last versions that they did was quite amazing. They presented the Gospel clearly and lovingly, yet allowed the person to understand that sin has consequences. Five minutes into the discussion they shared an opportunity for the person to accept Christ. The kicker to the skit is that they never asked if the person was a Christian and had been baptized.

Do we know their full story? If so, show them Christ. In your actions, in your relationships, and in your words. Yet, remember that redemption without Christ is a lie. We must state that He is our Savior and Redeemer or we are just telling a fun fairy-tale story. Let them know what sin is and the cost, no matter how tough it is to go down that road. But the great thing about the 3Story journey is that we have earned the right to be heard and most likely been Jesus to them for weeks or months already. At the same time, this relationship and us praying weekly or daily for them will inspire you to want to share Jesus because your heart with yearn for them to know Him.

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If you were to meet me now for the first time compared to high school or middle school, you would find a completely different person. I use to be socially awkward, a nerd, and someone who just wanted to blend in, nothing more. While I am not that person anymore, (alright, I am still very much a nerd) those experiences have shaped me into who I am today and why I stand so firmly in my faith, marriage, and beliefs like I do. But to assume my character and label me something means you will miss apart of who I am.

We love to label people. Jocks, nerds, shy, loud, promiscuous, dumb, over-achiever, emo, Jesus freak, trouble maker, and prude, just to name a few. Yet, even if we receive numerous labels, we are more than that. Do you know the whole story? If you really knew why they act the way they do, your heart might break.

Glee gained its popularity as a musical sitcom partly because of the breaking of stereotypes. In the show, football stars, music geeks and physically handicapped students find themselves in the same social group and nearly every episode has addressed these differences and how to find acceptance.

3Story emphasizes that you learn their whole story. While you listen, connect your life to their life and find common ground. These connections of your story to theirs can build empathy and trust in your relationship with them. The fact that I understand the pressure of unrealistic expectations that a star high school basketball player feels, allowing me to connect to their story and them to relate a little more to me.

Do you truly know other people’s whole story or have you missed it and labeled them?

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3Story : Know Your Story

Jeremy Smith —  October 4, 2011 — 1 Comment

The teenagers in this decade are of a different worldview than most of the adults within the Church. The postmodern perspective does not believe in absolutes, rather believing that everything that happens to them is relative. How I was raised has defined who I am and no one in the entire world, past, present, or future, will ever be the way that I am.

Everyone has a story but not every can articulate it:

  • Where did you come from?
  • Who have you become?
  • What are your priorities in life?
  • How are you going to impact the world?

So what is your story? The very essence of knowing who you are can be Be a huge testimony for those who see your faith. Is your identity truly in Christ? Is your marriage a priority over your job or ministry? Can you fully embrace your nerdy side?

Live out your story daily. As Christians, we say we are set apart because of our faith, yet statistics on divorce or alcoholism proves otherwise. If you claim to be a Christians, why is Biblical literacy so low yet we can tell you about every primetime show on our favorite channels. Our story needs to be defined for ourselves and lived out consistently. This does not put a label on us because our story is ever changing, but we need to be clear who we are and what we stand for.

As we come to understand our story, we will come across some of the struggles in our lives. We are molded by what we have done and experienced, the good, bad, and ugly. It makes us who we are today. The sins of our past that led us to a point of rock bottom and at the foot of the Cross give us a testimony to those that might currently be headed to their own rock bottom. Yet, for those of us that have entered into a relationship with Christ, we are not defined by the sins and mistakes of our past but by the hope that we have in our Lord and Redeemer. With this faith, our story has a new chapter that is still being written, but we know the ending that ends in glory.

So what is your story and how will you share it with others?

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My first year of serving with Youth or Christ as a volunteer, I was an introverted nerd who had never shared my faith with anyone. Serving as a volunteer, I was asked to do several different things. I was good at running games, could put together the greatest PowerPoint, and loved to play ping pong or MarioKart with any students that wanted to lose. The fun stuff was easy for me, but when we were asked to share our faith with students, I did not have a clue what to do. That is when the leader introduced me to 3Story.

We can best describe 3Story as a way of life that guides followers of Christ to be good news while telling stories of the good news. It is not a set of rules or steps to evangelizing to people, but a relationship model to live out. This idea of relationships was key for me to understand how to share my faith. Because it is based in relationship, this model is not a quick process, but a long journey, living life with students.

The 3Story model consists of three parts that intertwine: My Story, Their Story, and God’s Story. We will more in depth at them in the coming posts, but here is a list of defining traits:

  • Stories more than Steps
  • Questions more than Answers
  • Honesty more than Perfection
  • Them more than You
  • Love more than Knowledge
  • By the Spirit more than by the Numbers

Here is Youth for Christ’s video of how they are using 3Story.

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